I’m a lady

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The word “Lady” has been used to describe certain females, males, and four legged creatures.  

There are numerous definitions; one that stood out to me was the “Slang” version – a female lover or steady companion. This was quite a departure from the definition I grew up with – a woman regarded as having social morals; female counterpart of gentleman. My Grandmother, in  her domestic job did not define her character.

I was born into a family where there were no men except for the procreators. Therefore, growing up I never witnessed a gentlemen giving flowers, opening doors, or pulling up the car.

My dating life started late. I did have a date once as teen with a young man that I grew up with in Diggs Park. By the time of our date we no longer lived in the Park – my mom and his family had purchased homes. My date came in, said his proper hellos, and opened the car door. He took me to a restaurant at the beach and he never used a profane word. I informed him of what I wanted from the menu and he in return relayed the information to the wait staff. I continue this practice to this day.

Recently, I went out to dinner with one of my single girlfriends. We were having a great time and about to conclude our evening when five businessmen from Canada offered to buy us a drink. They were winding down their day and just wanted to relax. We did our proper introductions. Suddenly, the evening took a turn for the worst (at least for me) as one of the gentlemens lips touched his edamame; my friend made a comment with sexual overtones. I was mortified. I find it difficult to speak about certain subjects in mixed company.

I was amazed because she often said that she was a “Lady,” that she’d like to be treated as such, and that she would not settle for any man that treated her less than that, therefore, I expected different.  

Via Facebook I have connected with numerous people that I have known since elementary school even the gentleman that had taken me on my first date.

I inquired why he never included me in some of his mischief. To my surprise he said it was due to the way that I presented myself. I was shocked; I assumed it was because I was too slow.

I never gave a description of myself nor do I inform others on how I should be treated. I am aware of what is or feels proper for me. I never demanded a standard from someone that I am not willing to uphold for myself (be it male or female). Yes, this has left me open to being manipulated, but not for long.

Definition: A Lady is well mannered and considerate.

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Response to I'm a Lady

Great analogy!! Women know whether they are exuding the elements and characteristics of a "lady". It is not something that is taught, rather something you demand, earn and ultimately wear it like armor.
Congrats on a simple but realistic writing about a much needed subject especially for our younger generation... this needs to be shared with our college campuses.
OUTSTANDING... !!!!

Response to I'm a Lady

Great analogy!! Women know whether they are exuding the elements and characteristics of a "lady". It is not something that is taught, rather something you demand, earn and ultimately wear it like armor.
Congrats on a simple but realistic writing about a much needed subject especially for our younger generation... this needs to be shared with our college campuses.
OUTSTANDING... !!!!

Outstanding post Ms. Michelle! In

Outstanding post Michelle you are so right, if you proclaim to be a lady, you must carry yourself as a lady, no matter, what the case my be. Be who you say you are, act like you know who you are, and dont lower your standards for one. I'm a very proud young lady.

I also sat back and analyzed

I also sat back and analyzed myself. I feel like many women consider themselves as ladies but their actions say otherwise. Women whose actions are like the woman you went to dinner with, are often associated with low self esteem which is understandable. Women definitely have to know their worth so that we don't have to stoop so low!

Another great read! Interesting subject to touch up on

Spot on Michelle!

Spot on Michelle!

Great post Michelle! In

Great post Michelle! In response I would have to say that when women carry themselves as a "Lady" it commands a different approach from a guy. Our approach is always in response to the presentation.

I love it and it made me sit

I love it and it made me sit back and analyze myself. I definitely can relate to this story. "Im a Lady"

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