We are officially in the middle of the wedding season. Just when you think you are finished with weddings, a few friends throw you a curve ball and there you are again, trying to find a dress, a gift and the new one for us, a babysitter. We had a run right after our wedding where we both were in weddings and had to attend even more. The last wedding I was in (never again), I was pregnant with the little guy. It’s been awhile since we have witnessed holy matrimony in action.
So, a babysitter, usually one of the grandmothers, will be called and on we go on our “date” to a wedding. Now, I think the most important part of getting ready to attend a wedding is the babysitter. I have a strong belief that if you are going to a wedding, unless otherwise stated by the bride and groom, you should leave your children at home. There is nothing more annoying than sitting in front of or behind a small child at a wedding. The climbing, whining, pulling up their dress, dropping some sort of sugar coated bribe all over the floor while the mother’s face gets more and more red. It’s horrible to watch; being a mother myself, I know the feeling she is experiencing and, as I try to politely help her by slipping the kid some fruit snacks that were at the bottom of my purse, I thank my lucky stars that I left the kids at home.
Unfortunately, a bride is put in a terrible position when it comes to the children thing. They don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but they don’t want 20 little heathens running wild at their reception. As a parent, I have realistic expectations for children, especially those under the age of four. Some might last through the ceremony without incident, but once they get to the reception it will probably go downhill and fast. Music, booze and unattended dessert tables: Not a good combo. And no, I’m not saying the kids will get into the booze, but the parents more than likely will, and then will not care what the kids are doing through the alcohol haze.
I have not ever taken my children to a wedding and probably will not ever take them until they are at least in the double digits, unless it’s family or they are actually in the wedding. I’m not saying that parents can’t control their children (Well, in some cases that might be what I’m saying.), but to ensure the peacefulness of the day for the bride and for yourself on your date with your husband, leave the kids at home. They only care about the cake anyway.