I attended a mini-conference yesterday, Leading Noble Men, put on by the Noble Warrior’s ministry. We began the day, hearing from the Commissioner of the Department of Social Services. He shared with us, the devastating statistics caused when fathers decide not to be fathers to their children. The rate of school dropouts increase, teenage suicides increase, teenage drug use increases and births outside of marriage, all occur because fathers have abandoned their families. The walls of our families are crumbling at all levels and need to be rebuilt, beginning with fathers.
Fathers have a great responsibility given by God to lead their families. Where the father goes, so goes the family. If the father chooses to be an alcoholic, a drug addict, or even a workaholic, then the family will suffer. Fathers must first choose to be good husbands to their wives. The divorce rate in America is staggering. When you married your wife, you took a vow before God to have and to hold, in richer and in poorer, in sickness and in health, until death we do part. Moses gave the Israelites a certificate of divorce because of their hard hearts and their stiff necks. We must realize that the walls protecting our families will be destroyed when divorce occurs.
One of the presenters listed six responsibilities that every father has. The problem is that many fathers think that #1 is enough, but I agree with all six.
Being a good parent can be challenging. The world offers every kind of self-help imaginable, but God’s Word teaches us how to be godly men, godly husbands and godly fathers.
Many fathers might say, well I’ve blown this and cannot fix it. Luke 1:37 states, “For with God nothing will be impossible.” We, as fathers, may have to swallow our pride and allow God to humble us to admit our mistakes. Our children do not need absentee dads. We need to admit that a problem exists in our world, and take the difficult steps to fix it. I define a father as a man who is not perfect, but who cherishes his family at all costs. His wife and his children know that he will be there for them, no matter what the circumstance.
My charge to fathers is; that you return to your families. Reconcile with your wives, if need be. Let’s rebuild these deteriorating walls, which will in turn strengthen our nation and give our children a fighting chance. You chose to be a father when your first child was conceived, so act like one.